Author: C. Anderson

When I’m Not Where I Want to Be – Life in Exile

When I’m Not Where I Want to Be – Life in Exile

My husband stopped counting. Not me. This was the seventh time we’d rebooked our flights. I felt angry and a bit depressed. Would we never get to return home? Living in exile isn’t easy. Whether physical or other, I often find myself not quite where 

Why Laying Down Power is More Powerful

Why Laying Down Power is More Powerful

Has God called you to bring about change? Likely you responded to God’s call and a need when you decided to go to the mission field. I did! My heart burned with a passion to take the gospel to the places where it had not 

Will Trauma on the Mission Field Lead to Further Loss?

Will Trauma on the Mission Field Lead to Further Loss?

Missionary adventures can turn into tragedy. Our journey usually starts with tremendous excitement. We are ready to take on great challenges for God’s Kingdom’s sake. Then, as the months and years go by, we often encounter circumstances far different from what we expected. Coup d’etats, evacuations, losing our visas, persecution, death, martyrdom, sickness, kidnappings…these things happen to us on the mission field. When they do, we must learn to reach out for help.
 
Not all mission agencies provide quality debriefing to those on the field who suffer trauma. Many missionaries work independently, or are sent out by a church. Senders may have little understanding of how to care for those who suffer trauma on the mission field. If that is your situation, you must take responsibility to get the help you need. Don’t delay.
 
If you and your children have faced a traumatic experience on the mission field, reach out for help to care professionals. Don’t try to handle things on your own. Tragedy doesn’t need to lead to further tragedy.
 

Soldiers at Our Door

Below is an excerpt from my book (to be released next year), Encountering God in the Wild Places
We couldn’t go to school that day. “The president has been shot,” our parents said. According to rumors, a soldier in the army named Samuel K. Doe was drinking with a group of buddies. One of them had a key to the armory. He and his friends decided to march on the presidential palace. The soldiers shot the president and took over the country.
 
There was much more to the story. That was how I remember it being explained to us. When my parents told me of the coup, I had little comprehension of the devastation it would cause. What mattered most in my twelve-year-old mind was that we were off of school. The gravity of what was happening didn’t sink in very deeply at first.
 
For us, a “coup day,” as we came to call them, was not much different than a snow day for a kid in Minnesota. We were happy to get to stay home and goof off, rather than study. Days turned into weeks, and our school would reopen briefly only to close again a few days later. Though only in middle school, I began to realize more was at stake.
 
One day, my mom picked my brother and I up in the car.
 
A soldier stepped into the road, in front of our car; his hand held up in a signal to stop. It was common at the time for military personnel to commandeer any car they saw out and about. Many people were losing their vehicles. My brave mother thought fast. She boldly offered to take him wherever he wanted to go. Then he wouldn’t need to take our car away!
 
The man slipped into the back seat. He sat down, placing his big gun on the seat next to me. I was both intrigued and terrified! We made it home that day, vehicle still in our possession. I went back to playing basketball, fooling around with my games and monkey. I definitely knew things were not business as usual though.
 
Further incidents happened over the next few days. One morning, a group of soldiers marched through our neighborhood. Reaching the first house, they went into the house across the street. From inside, I heard screams as gunshots fired.
 
I wasn’t certain what was going on, but I knew our house was next in line. The soldiers were methodically going from house to house looting. They stole anything of value and had their way with any women they found in the homes.
 
After finishing at the house across the street, the men exited. They moved in our direction. Peeking out the windows, I prayed with the rest of my family for God’s protection. A group of neighbors gathered in the street and talked with the soldiers. We overheard them saying, “These are good people. Don’t bother them.”
 
After some discussion, the men, dressed in army fatigues, decided to move on. They continued down the street, choosing to skip our house, moving on to raid other less fortunate homes.
 
This was a terrifying experience. I was only twelve.
 
At the same time, I knew, God was with us. He was protecting and taking care of my family. The experiential knowledge of God as my Protector merged with the trauma of having been in such a risky situation. This dichotomy formed a foundational stone of understanding in my life.
 

Debriefing Helps

I needed debriefing. At the time, none was available.
 
For years afterwards, I suffered the affect of these events. It was only in adulthood, when a missionary myself, I sought help and healing from my childhood trauma. Don’t wait that long!
 
If you or your family have suffered a visa crisis, an arrest, sexual abuse, an evacuation, death, or other events, you do not have to be tough. Seek help.
 
As missionaries, we tend to think we are stronger than normal people. “Suck it up and do what needs to get done,” we think. Later we pay the price. Or our families do. Or it comes out in our health.
 

4 Ways to Get Help and Debriefing

1. Contact a missionary counseling center.

Below are links for counseling centers that offer debriefing and counseling.

2. Read articles, books and use online resources.

Here are some links I recommend for help with member care issues.
There are also many helpful books for those who have suffered a traumatic event.  Here are two books that can be of help to you.  They are available on Amazon.com
 

3. Reach out to other missionaries who have faced similar trauma.

If there is no counseling center nearby, don’t isolate. Reach out to other missionary friends for help. Often, when we return to our home country, people don’t understand what we have been through. Make use of your missions community. Ask for prayer and share what you are feeling and experiencing.
 
Don’t have a community? Feel free to reach out to other missionaries via the Missionary life Facebook group. Post a question there about your situation and ask where you can get counsel or prayer for yourself or your family.
 
Don’t let pride stand in the way of reaching out for help when you need it.

4. Take a break and seek professional counsel.

Several times in our missionary career, we have needed to stop our frontline work. We have taken an extended break to recover from traumatic events. This is not failure, it is wisdom. It shows strength, not weakness, to seek help from professionals. Many Christian counselors are ready and willing to minister to you.
 
It may cost money, but you are worth it! God will provide as you seek the help you need. This has been true for me and my family time and time again.

5. Don’t be too proud to take medication when recommended.

There is a great stigma associated with the use of medication to help with anxiety, PTSD or depression. This should not be the case. There is nothing unspiritual about taking prescribed medication. It can help you overcome the affect on your brain, serotonin levels in your body, etc.
 
Refusal to take recommended medication can greatly delay recovery. If your doctor or therapist suggests this, don’t be ashamed to agree to it. This can help you return to effective ministry (and life) as quickly as possible.
 

Have You Suffered Trauma on the Mission Field?

If this article relates to you or someone you know, take action today. Get help. Reach out. God doesn’t want you stuck and sick. Care is available for you and your family.
 
What other member care options do you know of? Share links or options in the comments below or on the Missionary Life Facebook group.
5 Things About Finding the Best Ministry Partners

5 Things About Finding the Best Ministry Partners

“I love missionary life and doing ministry, but I hate the fund-raising aspect of it!” These are common feelings for many on the mission field. I’ve definitely had them too! We have to change our mindset. Developing ministry partners can be fun and exciting. It 

Worth Investing in? Fundraising Principles

Worth Investing in? Fundraising Principles

True or False: Fundraising is an important priority for a missionary. Do you believe this? Or is it rather an added nuisance to our lives as field workers? If you ask those serving to answer this question honestly. You’ll get a wide variety of answers. 

6 Tips for a Successful and Fun Missionary Life “Race”

6 Tips for a Successful and Fun Missionary Life “Race”

Facing trials…again…and again….and again. How do we keep going in the missionary life “race”?

The following is a guest post by Rachel A.

I am a long-term, hopefully, life-long missionary. The race marked out before us is a marathon, not a sprint. I’ve come to understand this.

Many who started the race with me have given up, changed direction or overtaken me.  They reached the finish line. The marathon, I’ve learned, is not run on a nice, safe, obstacle-free running track. It is an unknown journey with the only surety being that Jesus is running with me.  How do I keep going, and make it through?

6 Tips For a Successful and Fun Missionary Life “Race”

1. Stick close to the forerunner.

Jesus is the One who goes ahead and shows us the path.  Never get too busy serving Him and miss being connected to Him. Do you spend far more time ministering to others?  Coming to Jesus for answers to ministry questions alone?  Make a radical choice to protect your intimate time with Him. I make a rule for myself.  No work/emails/phone calls or even daily tasks before spending time with God in the morning. Make it the top priority.

2. Stick close to your running mates.

We need to have relationships that function well at a deep level.  Whether this is family, teammates and other leaders, you need these people. The enemy wants to divide us from deep life-giving relationships.  Criticism, selfishness, mistrust or independence, causes us to start to wither inside. My golden rule: make things right quickly. If there are relational problems or misunderstanding, go and sort it out, even if it is painful. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.

3. Know where you are running and why.

If you lose the vision of where you are going, or why you are doing it-  distraction quickly sets in.  Motivation dries up. We experience disillusionment, feel tired, and bored. The grass on the other side of the fence seems greener. Having a “big picture” from God about what He has called me to, helps me to maintain faith even when I don’t feel like it. I write down the words, pictures, and scriptures He gives me.  They are great fuel for prayer.

4. Know that the prize is worth the effort.

I love going to the market to bargain.  You clearly see how much something is worth to you, rather than just having a flat price. If the seller is demanding too high a price and what you are buying seems not worth it to you, you walk away. It’s the same in life. Keep a good eye on the prize. It is easy to let success in ministry, numbers or goals, become a prize. These will inevitably not satisfy.  Make sure the prize is an eternal, unshakeable one- Jesus Himself.

5, Know what’s normal and where to get help.

Feeling pain in the race or sometimes wanting to quit is normal. Being stretched further than you ever thought possible is also normal. Failure, disappointment, and periodic loneliness are normal. Get prayer, ask for help, and learn from others through the books they’ve written. Let yourself cry, and pour out all the “stuff” – don’t bottle it all inside.

If these emotions describe your daily “normal”, stretching on for months,  get help. We were never meant to be titanium people. Sometimes in the mission field, we face more stress, loss, or trauma in a month than others face in years. Ask for help. Talk to some member care people, a counselor, your doctor, your pastor, somebody… you are not alone.

6. Enjoy the journey.

Life is meant to be joyful and fulfilling. Being a follower of Jesus should be something that is attractive, not sour. I find reflecting on God’s generosity and kindness frequently so helpful. Asking myself what am I thankful for today, and praying it out back to Him. When in pain, I ask God to help me see things from His perspective. I open my eyes to see the little love gifts He daily gives. Scrolling back through past photos reminds me of all the ways He has been with me. It gives me great joy and expectation for the rest of the race.

Let’s not give up, but know that our labor in the Lord is not in vain. His Kingdom, like every part of His creation, is made up of many different components contributing their part. You are part of His body, His bride, and we are running together in Him.

How Should Christians Respond to Persecution?

How Should Christians Respond to Persecution?

“Unlock your phone and show it to us or we won’t let you enter our country,” the immigration official demanded. Seizing his phone, the officers checked the emails, Facebook, WhatsApp and other private messages of the nervous missionary. Though they allowed him to enter the 

Can God Provide for Missionary Kids with Special Needs?

Can God Provide for Missionary Kids with Special Needs?

The education of children on the mission field is a major concern. This is especially true when they have special needs. God loves missionary kids and knows how to provide for them. Their destiny matters to God as much as it does to us, their 

Three Dangers of Doing God-Sized Tasks With Human Strength

Three Dangers of Doing God-Sized Tasks With Human Strength

Missionary burn-out is very real. We missionaries are a deeply committed people. We are willing to lay down our lives, do whatever it takes, to see people come to Christ. God regularly asks us, His people, to do things far beyond our own capacity. He never expects us though, to do those things in our own strength! We can only do God-sized tasks with God’s mighty strength.

The Little Engine Story

One of my favorite childhood stories was “The Little Engine that Could.” Published in 1906, it was part of a sermon by Rev. Charles S. Wing. It’s a story about a small train engine that is trying to get to the top of a mountain. As it chugs along, climbing upward, it says to itself, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.” The story encourages a “CAN DO” mindset and an optimistic spirit. It’s a good story, beloved by children and teachers around the world.

God-sized
The little engine said, “I think I can. I think I can.”

The problem is this. Sometimes we think we can…but we can’t. The tasks we’ve been given by God require Him to show up and do something far, far beyond us! Optimism and determination are wonderful things. But they are a poor substitute for dependency on God.

The Bible is full of passages about God’s ability to strengthen His people. One of my favorite Old Testament characters is David. David learned how to strengthen himself in the Lord.

“But David found strength in the Lord His God.”1 Samuel 30:6

He did impossible things…things no one believed could be done. He killed a giant, defeated the Philistines, conquered territory and through his son Solomon, build a great temple. He also took things into his own hands at times and paid a high price for it. We can learn from both his success and failures.

Three Dangers of Doing God-Sized Tasks With Human Strength

Danger #1- You might succeed.

What? Is that a danger? Yes, it is. Success can be a grave danger. Sometimes, God allows us to do things in our own ways and in our own strength. Though He longs for us to rely on Him and let His power flow through us, He does not interfere. When we succeed, it is easy to become proud. We worked hard, we worked smart, and look what we did! Time to wave a red flag – major danger approaching. Our success will be short-lived. King Saul took the glory for himself, became proud, and lost the kingdom.

Danger #2- You might fail.

Failure is also a danger. Stepping out in faith to do something beyond ourselves is a risk. God longs to meet us in that place. He wants to show up and do the impossible. He will not take over and lead though unless we give it to Him. The Lord waits for us to surrender, to call out to Him, to lean on Him.

When we strive in our own power, failure is very often the outcome. We then can find ourselves disappointed in ourselves… and also in God. Humans have a natural tendency (all the way back to the Garden of Eden) to blame others for failure. Often, God is the one we condemn. This can cause a distance in our relationship with God. It stunts our spiritual growth and destroys our missionary effectiveness as well.

Danger #3- You might burn out.

If you push yourself too hard, striving in your own strength, the result could be burn-out. There are seasons when we work extra hard, seasons of harvest or times of birthing new ministries. pioneering efforts require much of us. They have to only be seasons though. Continually working long hours without rest is never God’s plan. Weekly sabbaths are vital and show that we are depending on God, not ourselves.

Burn out isn’t worth it. It is costly in so many ways. We must learn instead, to allow His strength to flow into us as we let go and let God.

Are you leaning on Him? As you chug up that mountain?

The little engine in the story said, “I think I can…I think I can.” Maybe a better mantra to repeat as we climb is, “I know God can, I know God can.”

We Will Get There!

With our hope firmly in the Lord, we will reach the top. We will see Father God do what He has promised. All the glory will go to Him alone for we will know it was Him who has accomplished it.

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How to Set Objectives and Make an Effective Sabbatical Plan

How to Set Objectives and Make an Effective Sabbatical Plan

Burnout signs – they are relatively easy to spot. Low energy. Reduced passion for ministry. Not getting things done that normally are quite easy to do. One way of addressing these issues is to consider taking a sabbatical. To make it a success, you need