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The Challenge and Privilege of Being a Missionary Father

The Challenge and Privilege of Being a Missionary Father

Pretending to ride a horse on his back, traveling on motorcycles to distant villages and sharing the good news of Jesus with others…these are a few of my memories of dad. The love, affirmation, and acceptance of our fathers is a powerful force in our 

3 Tips for Effective Communication in Missionary Fundraising

3 Tips for Effective Communication in Missionary Fundraising

Have you ever needed money for a ministry project and not had it? Maybe you’ve struggled with daily needs like food, housing, or paying for your kid’s schooling. Financial challenges drain energy and affect fruitfulness on the mission field. They are common to most of 

When You Want To Quit Learning That Annoying Language

When You Want To Quit Learning That Annoying Language

I am a very goal oriented person. When I don’t achieve my goals or continually hit barriers, I can feel discouraged. The temptation to give up and throw out the goal is huge. Language learning goals are some of the easiest in our lives to let go of.

“Maybe I already speak well enough?” we think to ourselves. “I have enough to get by. After all, I’ve been here for several years now and it’s time I started producing something!”

We let go of our original dream of speaking with local people about the deeper things of God. It is easy to settle for market fluency. You can get around, buy stuff, take public transport, etc. We lower our standards…and our hopes.

Sadly, we often give up when we are really not that far from fluency.

The Danger Of Being Okay With It

The biggest danger in language learning is when we quit learning. The temptation is strong after you’ve been at it (language learning) for a few months or years. The pull is there to be okay with not speaking the language well. After all, many others around you can’t speak the language well!

We reach a certain language level and stop pressing forward. It begins to feel okay to use translators, rather than continuing to put in the effort. No longer do we push forward toward fluency. Does this sound like you or someone you know?

I am not saying we should be performance oriented, or beat ourselves up if we are making slow progress. I am saying – you can’t afford to give up!

Achieving Your Language Learning Goals Is A Process

Learning a new language is a long process. It requires consistent ongoing effort. Small steady steps forward and good habits will take you to your destination of fluency, even if it is a long road. Don’t settle for less than that.

Starting Again, And Again, And Again

Today, I am pulling out my language learning books and recordings…once again. I am looking at my schedule and making sure that there is a slot in my life for studying Thai. I’ve had a season with an intense schedule and have been sick. Habits (in more areas than this one) got a bit off track. It is time to review my goals and get started again.

Inside me, I feel the tug of a temptation to not include this in my life. There are so many other things that feel more fulfilling and productive.

Experience has taught me one thing though. It is worth it to consistently plod forward with language learning. One day, when I share the gospel in this language and introduce someone to Jesus, it will feel worth it! So today, I’m writing to you, but I am reminding myself of this as well! I can’t afford to give up and neither can you.

“Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:4 NIV

3 Language Learning Habits That Help When You Want To Quit

These are the things I recommend when you start to get off track or want to give up on your language learning goals.

1) Determine to use what you know.

It is so tempting at this point to stop trying altogether. We face language learning weariness. It takes energy to attempt to speak. Not everyone wants to hear your bad Thai (or whatever language you are learning).

“Sawatdee ka. Sabaidee mai ka?” I ask.

“I’m fine. How are you?” they respond.

Arggh! Once again my attempt to speak with someone ended up in English. Does this ever happen to you? You try, but the person you are speaking to acts like it’s too painful to try to talk to you in your new language? They want to put you out of your misery.

Refuse to give in. Keep using what you know even if they respond in English (or French or Portuguese).

2) Set a regular daily study time.

The longer you live in the country, the more you are expected to produce something in ministry. You expect more of yourself as well. You may no longer have the luxury of doing language study full-time (if you ever did.)

Make language study and practice part of your schedule and daily routine. Taking even 10-15 minutes a day will carry you forward. Giving no time for language learning will not.

Consistent daily habits of study work better than studying for a long time every few weeks.

You might also consider where else you could add language learning to your life. I like to listen to my new recorded vocabulary words when I am driving or gardening.

3) Maintain a language learning posture.

Keep a notebook handy to record new words you hear spoken. Routinely ask, “What is this word or phrase in ______?” Many find it helpful to quickly record those words on their smartphones.

Stay in a learning mindset. It will take you far. After you have learned the first few thousand words in a language, it is much easier to add new vocabulary. Whenever possible, begin to immediately use those new words in daily life.

It’s time for action. Which one of these three things will you do this week? Let me know in the comments below.

Circles of Intimacy- Who Do I Share With?

Circles of Intimacy- Who Do I Share With?

What does it mean to live an authentic, transparent life as a leader in ministry?  Who do you share what with?  Is it appropriate for everyone to know the deep challenges you walk through?  Is it somehow false or wrong to “keep secrets” or not 

3 Reasons Not to Ask Foreigners for Money

3 Reasons Not to Ask Foreigners for Money

“Do you know of any short-term teams that could come and work with us?” I was surprised by the question. It seemed to me that they were doing a great job without help from abroad. Inquiring further, it became clear. They didn’t need the team 

How to Aggressively Fight a Common Fear in Missionary Life

How to Aggressively Fight a Common Fear in Missionary Life

There are a few things I truly hate. One is when fear is used to manipulate and intimidate God’s people. Fear is such a powerful tool of oppression.

We see it used by politicians to get votes from the fearful. Likewise, it is used by the enemy of our soul to manipulate and paralyze us. Fear can turn a bold witness into an anxiety-filled missionary, afraid to do what God called them to do.

I hate that. Anger fills my heart toward Satan’s use of this tool against so many Jesus followers. We who in Christ could be so secure, so filled with trust and so confident in a sovereign, powerful and awesome God.

In the midst of increasing pressure on Christians and missionaries, we must guard our hearts against fear. We can not afford to allow the enemy to use this weapon against us.

“Fear paralyzes while faith activates.”

Fear paralyzes while faith activates. It is not possible to live a faithful, fruitful and fulfilled life on the mission field unless you aggressively fight against fear. This uninvited enemy threatens to creep into the corners, and even the “living rooms,” of your missionary life.

Interrogation

Some years ago, I entered a certain country for a meeting of our organization. It was a place with an extremely high level of security. The government was resistant to our purpose of making disciples of all peoples there.

It was not advisable for us to be completely upfront about what we were doing. Neither on entry or departure from the country.

As a follower of Jesus, I wasn’t comfortable being deceitful. I knew I could not lie. How would I answer their questions about what I had done as I departed?

Riding in the taxi on the way to the airport, my heart flip-flopped back and forth between faith and fear.

I rode in a shared vehicle to the airport with other visitors and tourists. God opened the door for me to share my testimony with someone next to me as we drove to the airport. The entire van listened.

While I rejoiced in the opportunity to be a witness of Jesus, I wondered if it was wise or foolish to share in a public place like that. What if I was reported to immigration?

Reaching the airport I approached the border officer, waiting for my turn in the cue.

They asked many questions about my activity. Some were difficult to answer, but I did my best. Then they asked about my camera.

I happened to be carrying an old camera that was a gift to my husband for his high school graduation. The batteries had run out on the trip, right at the end, and I couldn’t get new ones. It was dead. They wanted to see my pictures, but the camera wouldn’t turn on.

That was enough of a trigger for them to pull me out of the line and into an interrogation room. About 45 minutes of intense questioning took place. Then my bags were completely unpacked. Every single item was removed and searched.

Finally, in the end, they released me to go home. It wasn’t an easy experience. I was there to bless that nation and its people, not harm them. Why did I have to go through all that?

Fear knocked at my heart’s door in the midst of that incident, and for years afterward. It still does. I must actively refuse to let it rule over me.

I know I can not live faithful and fearful at the same time.

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela

How To Actively Resist Fear

1) To guard your heart, guard your tongue and ears.

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”- Prov. 18:21 ASV.

Our words have great power. Likewise, we are deeply influenced by what we choose to listen to.

Some missionary conversations focus on gossiping about the latest news. We hear of someone who lost their visa, was turned away by immigration, or arrested.

Stop participating in conversations that encourage fear. Instead, speak out testimonies of God’s power to open doors that no one can shut.

What do your conversations focus on? Faith or fear?

2) Dwell on God’s promises. Remember the prophetic words you’ve received.

Many of us work in countries that don’t welcome missionary activity. We live with an underlying fear that we may get kicked out. It could mean we lose our home, friends, and ministries at a moment’s notice. Things are not in our control, and that is hard.

It is a tough challenge to keep an attitude of faith. I have to take an active, regular decision to trust God’s ability to keep open the doors He has for me.

“I know your deeds. See, I have placed before you an open door that no one can shut. I know that you have little strength, yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name.” Rev. 3:8 NIV.

3) Embrace suffering as normal in the Christian (especially in missionary’s) life.

We are often influenced by a worldview that describes the Christian life as an easy road. This isn’t biblical. I will have to write more on that in another blog someday!

When we expect to suffer as a normal part of life, we are less surprised when bad things happen. Along with the joys will come trials. If you allow it, they will deepen you, shape you into His image and allow you greater fellowship with God and others.

4) Determine to trust in God rather than give in to anxiety.

When people see your life, do they see anxiety and fear? Or do they take notice of deep peace within you, one that comes from knowing you are secure and safe in God’s loving care?

Sometimes we have to choose trust over fear, every single day. At other times, we may go months without a struggle against fear. Continue resisting the enemy’s fear tactics. Refuse to let them overtake you. God can and will give you victory over these feelings.

Take Them Captive

2 Cor. 10:5 speaks of the need to “take every thought captive” and to “make it obedient to Christ.” When it comes to visa issues or threats of persecution, we must apply this verse.

What fearful thoughts have you struggled with this week or month?

Get aggressive in your battle against fear. God has a different way for you to walk in. He is with you today and He will be with you tomorrow, no matter what comes.

Doing My God Assignment Today- It’s As Simple As That

Doing My God Assignment Today- It’s As Simple As That

Life can be very complicated. So many needs pull at our attention. There are family needs, ministry needs, and the needs of the poor. The spiritually lost, the needs of those we are discipling, our own needs…it can feel overwhelming. Missionaries are generally compassionate people. 

When You Need To Just Run Through The Pain

When You Need To Just Run Through The Pain

“One more kilometer to go, oh God, please help me do this.” My stomach was cramping from a recent bout with food poisoning. I was weaker than normal, but my heart was set on completing the race. My husband, running alongside me said, “Run through 

How To Move Forward While Struggling With The Language

How To Move Forward While Struggling With The Language

Let’s face it. Not everyone is a gifted language learner. It’s frustrating when your peers seem to race ahead toward fluency. They leave you behind, battling to get a normal sentence out without stuttering.

Many very real factors affect our language learning abilities. Things like age, other ministry responsibilities, and family demands increase difficulty. Then there is natural ability as well. Some people have a gift for language learning. Others do not.

The great news is this. While language learning is important, you can see good fruit without becoming fluent. That is not to say we shouldn’t persevere and keep pushing forward to gain greater skill in language. Communicating well in the heart language is definitely needed for deep level discipleship. But you don’t have to wait the five or more years till that happens to begin to be effective.

You can have a great impact, even if your language abilities are not yet what you’d like. The key is developing strong partnerships with indigenous people. Value, support and push them to the forefront and you will rapidly see effectiveness. Our role as cross-cultural missionaries is not to lead. It is to develop, raise and release indigenous leaders.

Leading From Behind

Some years ago in Nepal, I began experimenting with Discovery Bible Study groups. I wanted to start a group among women at the Nepali church I attended. The ladies were faithful to come to church each Sunday. But many were not understanding the sermons well.

I knew the women had much potential to be disciple-makers in their community. How could I equip them?

A major hindrance to the spread of the gospel in Nepal, is that people perceive Christianity as a foreign religion. Though my Nepali language skills were decent, I was still a foreigner, no matter what I did.

It would be so much better if this Bible study was led by a Nepali person”, I thought. But none of the women in the church seemed confident or ready to lead.

I decided to approach the pastor’s wife. She was a wonderful, godly woman, and a good friend. Though she had never led anything before, she was willing to try if I would help her. She was hungry to learn.

This is what we decided to do. On Saturdays I would meet with her alone at her home. We would study the scriptures together. I’d answer questions and we’d pray together. Then on Sunday afternoons, when the ladies’ Bible study met, she would lead it.

I would be present, but she would be the leader, right from the beginning. I would mostly observe, and be there for support. Then the next Saturday when we met, if there was anything she’d done that needed adjustment, we would talk about it together.

The Bible study was a wonderful success. Women were trained, learned and grew rapidly. They were able to participate in the study and discuss scripture together. The pastor’s wife quickly developed into a capable leader and disciple-maker.

After some time, I no longer needed to attend the study. She was doing great. It was able to grow much more quickly because she was an insider to the culture and language. Had I chosen instead to lead it, the progress would have been much slower. It would have been hindered by my lack of language and cultural skills.

The first New Testament missionary team quickly appointed local elders in each new outreach location where they started churches. They knew that by appointing indigenous people to leadership, the church would grow rapidly.

“Paul and Barnabas appointed elders for them in each church and, with prayer and fasting, committed them to the Lord, in whom they had put their trust.”

Acts 14:23 NIV

Why Empowering Indigenous Partners Is A Better Approach

1. It helps the local community embrace the gospel as their own.

Local perception is very important. In most communities where the gospel is not yet known, the local people believe Christianity is a foreign religion. This is even true in the Middle East, though Jesus was from that area, not from America or Europe!

We must work to overcome this. We start by contextualizing the gospel (using appropriate spiritual terms, dressing like local people, etc.). But the most important thing we can do to overcome this perception is to get into the shadows. Push local people into the forefront.

I use the word push, because often out of respect, indigenous people will defer to you as the foreigner. They will want you to speak, lead, baptize people, counsel, pray for the sick, etc.

Make it a rule of thumb, to avoid doing anything an indigenous insider can do. If you are working in simple ways, that should be most things! Elevate the local people, and encourage from behind.

2. Indigenous partners have insights and wisdom you desperately need.

Even if you are from the same culture, it is still critical that you learn from those from that particular place. They have an understanding of their own context.

We as missionaries can tend to be arrogant, seeing ourselves as knowing more than the people we have come to serve. This is not godly. Nor is it helpful! Honor and respect those who are insiders to the community and culture. For a whole lifetime, they have been intuitively learning what you have only studied for a few years.

3. Incarnational witness through outsiders can only go so far.

The gospel is most fully incarnational when it is expressed through indigenous people. As a missionary, you can become like them in many ways. But you will never incarnate the gospel in the same way they will. Jesus’ life demonstrated through local people is the very best contextual representation of the gospel.

Fulfilled Missionaries Empower Indigenous Partners

Doing ministry from the shadows isn’t easy on our egos. Most people enjoy the praise and affirmation of being up on stage and in the front. That doesn’t mean it is good for us, or for our missionary vision.

As you press forward to learn language and culture, find local partners and push them to the front. You will experience a fruitful missionary life. In the end, this brings far greater satisfaction then the crowds knowing your name.

What can you do today, to make space for a local partner to be heard? To lead? How can you support them from behind? With training, mentoring, encouragement and friendship?

Let me know your action step on this in the comments below.

When Missionaries Don’t Have Genuine Friendships With the Lost

When Missionaries Don’t Have Genuine Friendships With the Lost

I was surprised (and a bit embarrassed) by the exercise. A seminar leader asked me to write down the names of 15-20 people I knew who were not believers. They were supposed to be people I interacted with in the course of my normal life.