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There is nothing like learning a new language to make you feel like a total idiot! It’s humbling. Sometimes it’s humiliating. For months and even years- it can feel like forever- you speak at the level of a two or three-year-old child. Then, after much hard work, you finally move up to…the level of a first grader! There you are, in an adult body, with an incredibly important message to share. You desperately want to communicate with the people you are ready to lay down your life for. God sees that desperation and is ready to help you. I’d love to help you too. Here are some simple principles to help you succeed in language learning.
Laugh At Your Mistakes!
Learn to find humor in your language mistakes. I recommend keeping a journal and recording them. One day when you are a veteran missionary, who speaks fluently, you will remember these fondly. One of my funniest language learning mistakes was at a wedding.
We had been in the country for about six months. I’d come a long way in language learning, or so I thought! We were attending a local church and no translator was available. As was typical in a Nepali church, my husband and I were seated on opposite sides of the building. We sat cross-legged on the floor, he with the men and me with the women.
It required endurance but I made it through the entire service. I understood a few words here and there.
They were speaking rapidly, but I was catching more and more. I’d hear phrases that made sense. Staying focused on trying to grab at least a few new vocabulary words out of the sermon, I stayed engaged, even if I got no spiritual benefit.
At the end of the message, the pastor made an important announcement. A young couple in the church was getting married the next week. I was so proud of myself! I was tracking right along and understanding everything! Woohoo!
Then, the pastor said, “Is there anyone here who won’t be able to attend the wedding?” Or that is what I thought he said, at least.
I raised my hand, knowing we had other commitments on the day of the wedding.
My husband, on the other side of the church, shook his head rapidly, trying to get my attention. The face of the future groom turned white as a sheet. The pastor, then asked me, “Are you sure?”
I was still confident I’d understood. We definitely couldn’t make it to the wedding. In my best Nepali, I replied: “Yes, I’m sure.”
The groom, about fainted.
As the words escaped my lips, I suddenly realized my mistake. The pastor had not asked me if we could attendthe wedding. He had asked the typical obligatory question. “Is there anyone here who has any objection to this couple getting married next week?” No wonder the groom about had a heart attack! Poor young man.
I felt bad for the groom, but it was also extremely funny. My husband and I laughed all the way home. To make up for my error, we gave a nice wedding gift to the new couple.
5 Keys To Succeed In Language Learning
1. Embrace humility and child-likeness.
The language learning process forces one to become like a child. Jesus said that is a good thing. It puts you in a position where you have to be a learner, not a teacher. This too is a very good thing. It may not feel good, but if we allow Him to do so, God will use this in our lives to powerfully transform. Embrace the journey. When you feel like an absolute fool, don’t fight against it. Go to God with it. Let His humility be formed in you through the language learning process.
2. Immerse yourself as much as possible.
The more you are able to be around people who only speak the new language, the easier it will be for you to absorb it. Not every situation is ideal for language immersion. Due to your kid’s schooling, you may find yourself often with people who prefer to talk to you in your own language. Or maybe there are many languages spoken in the place you live.
Immersion is such a big factor in language learning. I encourage you to find a way, even if it is only for a few weeks or a month. Go and live somewhere that people only speak the language you are learning. Live in a village for a while. Do a homestay. When returning home, continue to look for ways to surround yourself with people who don’t speak your own language.
3. Make yourself dependent on the local people around you.
This is like the first point, but slightly different. The more you put yourself in a position of need, the closer the bonds you will develop with indigenous people. As these bonds develop, they will give you insider knowledge, not only of the language but of the culture too.
It isn’t easy to be dependent on people you are not comfortable with. It is much easier to use google maps to get somewhere than to ask your neighbor to take you there. Asking another missionary friend where to buy groceries is easy. It’s better to go with a new contact and buy them in the market. Actions of dependence and need, push you forward in using your new language. Be willing to do things in a way that takes longer and is less comfortable. Choose ways that make you dependent on your host culture.
4. Remember your “Why”
When you feel this way, remember why you wanted to learn the language in the first place. What did God originally call you there to do? What would you be able to do so much better if you could communicate at a deeper level? How would it impact your evangelism? Your discipleship? Your leadership training?
There are times when we need to use translators. I don’t condemn anyone who does. I have used translators thousands of times!
Deep level discipleship, however, happens best when you speak their heart language well. Remind yourself that one day you will be able to do that, and the impact you will have will grow exponentially.
5. Be consistent in your daily efforts to learn.
This is maybe the most important tip I can give you! Daily, consistent learning is the key to success. Every single day practice a couple of new words. Set a time to study and make it a habit- even if it is only 15 minutes a day. Listen to recordings of new vocabulary while you wash the dishes every night. Set up that regular meeting with a language helper and put it on your schedule. Consistency will get you where you want to go more than fits and starts in language learning attempts.
Language Learning Is Ministry
The Brewsters wrote a book called Language Acquisition Made Practical (LAMP). They wrote, “Language learning is ministry!” I fully agree. It is not something we do so we can minister in the future. The process itself is a ministry. As you interact with people to learn the language, love them. Pray for them. Share your life and stories with them. Let God flow through you.
Do you need help in choosing the best language learning method for you? Download my free e-book! Find out more about the four methods I’ve used to learn various languages and discover the one right for you.
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A common missionary stereotype is a courageous single man hacking through the jungle with a machete, bringing the gospel to tiny hidden villages of indigenous people. That may have been a common expression a hundred years ago. Going solo as a missionary is not, however, the biblical example.
Let‘s look at two examples of missionaries from the Bible – Jesus and Paul. Both of them were outstanding in fruitful ministry, and fulfilling God’s call on their lives.
Did Jesus & Paul Embrace Going Solo?
During his ministry years, Jesus gathered disciples He lived and worked with. That was how He trained and later commissioned them to go and do as He had done. Having a team was a priority to Jesus. Forming that team was His first action after being baptized (Jn 1).
Paul also worked in teams. If we read the end of Romans 16, we see a list of his many coworkers.
What type of teams did they have?
In a word: Diverse!
Often we are more comfortable with teams of people similar to ourselves. Jesus and Paul had very different people in their teams.
1. There were men and women.
Despite cultural divisions between men and women, both Paul and Jesus had them on their teams. Between the sexes our relationships should be honoring, pure, and loving. Our world desperately needs to see healthy, non-sexualized, loving relationships between men and women.
“After this, Jesus traveled about from one town and village to another, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom of God. The Twelve were with him, and also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases: Mary (called Magdalene) from whom seven demons had come out; Joanna the wife of Chuza, the manager of Herod’s household; Susanna; and many others. These women were helping to support them out of their own means.”
Luke 8:1-3 NIV
“Greet Priscilla and Aquila, my co-workers in Christ Jesus. They risked their lives for me. Not only I but all the churches of the Gentiles are grateful to them. Greet also the church that meets at their house. Greet my dear friend Epenetus, who was the first convert to Christ in the province of Asia. Greet Mary, who worked very hard for you…. Greet Tryphena and Tryphosa, those women who work hard in the Lord. Greet my dear friend Persis, another woman who has worked very hard in the Lord.”
Romans 16:3-6, 12 NIV
2. There were old people and young people.
Sometimes we only want people who are mature on our teams. Young people can be seen as a liability. They may make a mess, quit, or do not know how to do things. However, both Paul and Jesus had many young ones on their teams.
We see in Mt. 17, Jesus and Peter needed to pay the temple tax. at that time, only men over twenty had to pay. It appears that the other disciples were exempt from payment, and so probably still in their teens.
Paul writes: “Greet Rufus, chosen in the Lord, and his mother, who has been a mother to me, too.” Romans 16:13 NIV. Timothy was also a young man- younger than the members of the church he was meant to be leading.
3. There were people from different backgrounds.
In His close team, Jesus had fishermen, a zealot, a tax collector, and Phillip – a Jew with a Greek name. They came from different social groups. Some were townspeople, others from the seaside, and Nathaniel liked sitting under fig trees. When we have a diverse group we need to work much harder at communication and finding common ground.
Paul’s team was multi-ethnic and multi-lingual.
“Greet Priscilla and Aquila, my co-workers in Christ Jesus..Greet also the church that meets at their house. Greet my dear friend Epenetus, who was the first convert to Christ in the province of Asia…. Greet Urbanus, our co-worker in Christ, and my dear friend Stachys…. Greet Herodion, my fellow Jew. Greet those in the household of Narcissus who are in the Lord. Greet Tryphena and Tryphosa, those women who work hard in the Lord. Greet my dear friend Persis, another woman who has worked very hard in the Lord… Greet Philologus, Julia, Nereus and his sister, and Olympas and all the Lord’s people who are with them. Gaius, whose hospitality I and the whole church here enjoy, sends you his greetings. Erastus, who is the city’s director of public works, and our brother Quartus send you their greetings.”
Romans 16:3, 5, 9, 11-12, 15, 23 NIV
These are the names of Jews, Greeks, Romans, and Asians. They also came from diverse backgrounds, and levels of society – prisoners, tent makers, and city officials.
Reflecting the God-Head or Going Solo
Why does God want us to work indiverse teams?
It is a reflection of Himself. He is One God, and yet Three- Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. God is love. God is team. The Triune God demonstrates unity in diversity.
How does your current team reflect that diversity?
Are there changes you could make to be more inclusive of those older or younger, of other genders, cultural backgrounds, or worldviews?
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“Christmas in America is so strange!” I could hear the reverse culture shock in his voice. He hadn’t celebrated this major holiday in his home country in fifteen years. The materialism of an American Christmas distressed him. Later, a friend from Africa said, “I don’t do Christmas. Here in Africa, we traditionally go to church, eat a feast, and buy new clothes for our children, but I don’t celebrate this holiday.” The Christmas season stirs up questions for missionaries. How much do we adapt to the culture and when do we resist it? What do we do and not do at Christmas?
Culture plays a huge role in the celebration of festivals.
The Christmas festival, in particular, has taken on many cultural elements. Many of them are not at all Christian and need to be resisted. Others have value and can be used as a bridge to share Jesus with others.
How do you know what to resist and what to adapt when it comes to cultural issues?
This is an important question for any missionary. It is not only related to Christmas. Let’s use this holiday to instruct us in cultural adaptation principles.
Water to a Fish
Culture is like water to a fish. We don’t notice it, but it plays a huge role in our lives. The more adapted you are to a cultural environment, the less you pay attention to it. This can be bad or good. Jesus’ followers must learn to be thoughtful about what we adapt to or resist in the culture around us (This is true in our own culture and our new culture as well.)
I Don’t Like This!
Cultural issues often came up when we returned to our home country. It was also a big issue when we moved to Nepal, India, and Thailand. How much do we adapt to the culture around us? Do we wear their clothes and eat their food? Is it okay to only learn the trade language, or do we need to also learn the heart language of the particular group we want to reach?
Coming back to the USA, there were things we found we didn’t like about our own culture. Things we hadn’t noticed before we went to another country to live. For America, a prime example is materialism. Our nation is obsessed with money and things. Obtaining them drives much of what we do. I don’t want that in my life as a disciple of Christ.
In India, our kids asked questions like, “My friends put a tikka on their forehead to match their khurta-suruwal (Indian dress). Can I wear those too?”
Back in the USA, they asked, “Will we celebrate Halloween and go trick or treating?”
These are cultural issues.
During the Christmas season, let’s look at issues that arise around this holiday.
Do we exchange gifts and put up a tree?
Do we have a special worship time with the believers and encourage them to celebrate?
What are the origins of Christmas anyhow? If it’s not the date of Jesus’ birth, why are we celebrating?
Are we importing Western culture when we put on Santa hats and go out caroling? Is that negative or positive?
We must make wise and prayerful choices. Our decisions have an impact, especially as we work among the unreached.
You may be the first person to share Jesus with your people group. The believers will look to you for guidance. The customs you adopt will impact the church in this people group for generations to come.
4 Principles for Adapting or Resisting Culture
1. Culture (and festivals) are part of our humanness.
They were created by God for good.
God designed human beings to live in a cultural and communal environment. Everything He does is good. Jesus was born into a particular culture. He transcended culture but also participated in Jewish culture. He went to cultural events and celebrated them in the Jewish way (the wedding at Cana for example).
Jesus participated in rituals, like going to Jerusalem with his family to celebrate Passover every year (Luke 2:41). Participation in cultural events builds community with others. This is something God designed us to need. We were made to celebrate. It is good for the soul.
2. Festivals have both a common and historical meaning.
As we examine cultural festivals, we must be aware of both the common meaning and the historical one. The Christmas tree is a good example of a Christian tradition that has a pagan root. These are good to be aware of but don’t necessarily determine what we do as far as resistance or adoption.
More important is the common meaning in most people’s minds. There are many examples of this, but let’s continue with the Christmas tree. Do people look at it and immediately think of druids dancing around it and worshipping a pagan god? Or do they think of the joy of giving gifts to loved ones now? Or the beauty of lights and family togetherness? What does it mean now?
This can be done with any cultural tradition. In India, the sticker tikkas (put on the forehead by women) has a historic meaning and a common one. For most women today it is much like wearing makeup and is something you wear to match your outfit. Very few even know the historic meaning. The red-colored rice put on the forehead is different. That is clearly a symbol of having done “puja” to a god or goddess. Which do you wear? Which do you avoid? Prayerful decisions must be made.
3. Culture can be redeemed.
Not everything in culture is redeemable, but many things are. We can ascribe new meaning to cultural symbols or rituals. This has been done throughout mission history.
By maintaining cultural symbols but giving them new meaning, the gospel feels local (indigenous). Its much easier for people to adopt it as their own, rather than as a foreign religion.
For example, in Africa, singing and dancing is a huge part of many cultures. Why not redeem the cultural songs and dances for good and use them to worship God? In Mizoram, there is a particular drum that was used in spirit worship. It is now used to praise Jesus. It has been redeemed.
4. Culture doesn’t rule us.
We don’t need to adapt to everything to reach people.
Some cross-cultural workers feel they must adapt to every aspect of their new culture without discretion. This is a mistake. Many things in culture are far from godly.
What are some examples of cultural things you do not want to adapt to? Think beyond surface-level issues. Here in America, I actively resist consumerism. It’s a huge cultural value, but not a Biblical one. In India, fatalism is a pervasive part of the cultural mindset. I resist it. God is directing my path, not karma.
Decision Time
This Christmas season, what will you adapt, redeem, introduce, or resist?
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