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When Jesus Calls Us to the Narrow Path – a Book Review

When Jesus Calls Us to the Narrow Path – a Book Review

This past weekend I went away for a quarterly retreat. This spiritual practice I’ve done for years keeps me grounded and abiding in Jesus. On this recent retreat, I read Rich Villodas’ new book The Narrow Path: How the Subversive Way of Jesus Satisfies Our 

Why Invest in Learning their Heart Language?

Why Invest in Learning their Heart Language?

“Ughh. Not again! Another day of language learning. Why not quit? I can already understand and speak more than a lot of people.” These, and other negative thoughts cross my mind as I stare at my language books. Language learning is hard work. You need 

Are You a Door Opener? Effective Leaders Do This!

Are You a Door Opener? Effective Leaders Do This!

When we go on dates, I like my husband to open the door for me. When he walks around and opens the car door, I feel special, loved, and valued. For some people that doesn’t matter much. I guess I am a bit of an old-fashioned romantic! Great leaders show others they are valuable by opening doors for them. Not physical doors, but doors of opportunity to use their gifts and step into their callings. Are you someone who opens doors for others?

It is easy to get busy with our own ministry and ignore the needs and desires of others around us.

Christ-like leaders are “door openers.” They recognize that they are not the only people with gifts and talents. Others around them also have a calling and God-given destiny. These leaders see it as a significant part of their job to elevate others. They raise them up and help them move forward.

5 Characteristics of Leaders Who Are “Door Openers”

1. “Door Openers” recognize and call forth the gifts and destinies of others.

What do you see when you look at your peers or those you lead? Are you focused on their faults and shortcomings? Or do you see their God-given destiny?

Great leaders can look beyond. They see past the flaws and mistakes and see others with prophetic eyes. These leaders can see what God desires to do through those around them. Then they take action to partner with God.

They help that person move forward and become what God has designed them to be. These leaders want to help others make their unique contribution to the world.

Often, as humans, we get discouraged when we look at ourselves. We only see the here and now. Our failures and difficulties seem big to us. A leader who can speak life and truth about who we are makes a huge impact. Call forth the destiny of God in others by telling them what you see in them.

Speak words like, “I can see you have a teaching gift.” Or, “You have an amazing creative ability. God is going to use that to touch many lives…even transform nations.” This kind of encouragement can go a long way in helping someone move toward their calling in God.

2. “Door Openers” use their influence to create opportunities for others to advance.

Together with recognition and encouragement, do what you can to create opportunities for others. Were you invited to speak somewhere? Who could you take along and share that teaching opportunity with? Perhaps you could recommend someone you know for a position or role. Or, invite them to participate with you on a project that utilizes their gift. Then, be sure to give them recognition for it so others will hear about their skills and gifts.

3. “Door Openers” would rather see others succeed in their goals than fulfill their own.

The scripture above talks about considering others as more important than yourself. This has to do with goals and vision as well.

I am a visionary who is very passionate about the things God has spoken to me! Moving forward with those goals is something I value greatly. But I never want to let my vision and goals blind me to those around me. They too have their own desires and God-given passions. Even when those interests are quite different from your own, do you look for ways to help them succeed?

4. “Door Openers” always look for people to mentor and develop. They have succession plans in place and move on.

Leaders who are “door openers” do not see themselves staying in their position forever. The best way to establish a sustainable ministry is to develop others in leadership. These leaders are not power-hungry. Instead, they are constantly looking for up-and-coming leaders who they can train.

Pioneer leaders often get stuck at the top. They founded the ministry and it is their “baby.” Giving it up or passing it on is not even a consideration. This causes problems, especially as leaders age.

Are you the kind of leader who is intentional about developing a network of other leaders? People who can easily take your place one day? Do you look for ways to let them lead, even now? Or do you prefer to make all the decisions yourself?

5. “Door Openers” pass the baton. They don’t hold on to power.

A life verse for me is 2 Timothy 2:2. Paul raised Timothy. Though he was young, Paul saw his potential. He then instructed Timothy to do the same. What he had learned from Paul, he was to pass on to faithful people who would also train others. We see multiple generations of disciples and leaders in this verse.

You can measure the strength of a person’s leadership by how many Timothys they have raised and whether or not those Timothys have also mentored and developed others.

There is a huge temptation to hold onto power. We like to give assignments and work to others but hold on to the authority to make decisions ourselves. This isn’t what “door openers” do. When they create opportunities (open doors), they give that person a chance to make the decisions. They don’t interfere. Emerging leaders may make mistakes and fail, but that will be a chance for training and growth.

Are you afraid to give authority because you fear others will not do something as well as you would?

Jesus Trusted and Moved On

Jesus is our ultimate example of a servant leader. He raised up the twelve apostles and gave them many ministry opportunities (see Luke 8-10 for one example.) Then, after just three years, He entrusted everything into their hands and left. Jesus trusted the Holy Spirit and those He had mentored to carry things on. He even said they would do more than He had done (John 14:12.) That is how much He believed in them.

What door could you open for someone today? Whose gift and calling could you call forth? Give recognition to? Take a look around you, at your colleagues and those you lead.

Prayerfully decide to grow as a “door opener.” Decide on one thing you could do to move forward in this area over the coming week.

I’d love to hear about your decision in the comments or any questions you may have. Or share about it in the Missionary Life Insiders Facebook Group.

A Tribute to My Mother-In-Law, Sylvia Anderson

A Tribute to My Mother-In-Law, Sylvia Anderson

A week ago today, my mother-in-law, Sylvia Anderson, went to be with her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  As you approach middle age, you know your parents will not live forever. That doesn’t make it any easier when the time comes for them to go.  

How to Overcome the “I Don’t Have” Thoughts in Personal Support Raising

How to Overcome the “I Don’t Have” Thoughts in Personal Support Raising

“I don’t have connections and contacts with people I could raise support from. I don’t know any __________________.” Fill in the blank. Some would say I don’t know pastors. Others would say I don’t know many foreigners. Some would say all my friends are fellow 

Book Review- Practicing the Way

Book Review- Practicing the Way

Jesus is not looking for converts to Christianity; he’s looking for apprentices in the Kingdom of God,” writes John Mark Comer in his book Practicing the Way. This book is a refreshing and insightful encouragement to 1) Be with Jesus, 2) Become like Him, and 3) Do as he did. These three things are in essence what it means to be a disciple.

A Serious Problem

In the book, he exposes a serious issue facing the Church today. “From at least World War II on, in many circles, the gospel was preached in such a way that a person could become a Christian without becoming an apprentice of Jesus.” We have preached a gospel that says, you are a sinner. God loves you. Jesus died on the cross for you. Believe in him and you will go to heaven. This is all true, but it’s an incomplete gospel. It fails to call people to become disciples of Jesus, taking up their cross and following Him.

3 Goals in Practicing the Way

Practicing the Way of Jesus involves three things, writes the author…

  • Being with Jesus
  • Becoming like Jesus
  • Doing what Jesus did

In being with Jesus, we are to learn to practice His presence, acknowledging that He is with us, and learning to become conscious of Him. Contemplative prayer is not about talking. It’s more about silence, solitude, and listening. It is not seeking to get something from God. It’s simply gazing at His beauty and enjoying being with Him.

To be with Jesus, and become like Jesus, takes time, says Comer. Quoting Rich Villodas, he writes, “Our souls were not created for the kind of speed to which we have grown accustomed.” How do we create more space to be with Him?

Practicing the Way

It’s not about doing more, it’s about doing less.

Love is the acid test of spiritual formation,” writes the author. “The most important question to ask as you consider your spiritual growth is, am I becoming more loving?” Do those closest to me notice that I am more loving than I was?

Honest Reflections on Doing What Jesus Did

Comer shares with honesty and vulnerability about his challenges in practicing the way of Jesus. In talking about doing what Jesus did, he identifies three key areas we need to grow in.

  • Making space for the gospel
  • Preaching the gospel
  • Demonstrating the gospel

Making space for the gospel has to do with offering hospitality to strangers, and opening our table for conversations about God. Addressing the Western aversion to “preaching the gospel,” Comer offers both hope and inspiration. “The question is not, Are you preaching the gospel? It is, What gospel are you preaching?” he writes. “Everyone is preaching a gospel.” We talk about what we love.

Comparing it to how much we talk about things like; intermittent fasting, keto diets, politics, or other things, John Mark challenges us to talk about Jesus more freely.

He then writes about the demonstration of the gospel. Jesus did this primarily through healing, deliverance, prophecy, and justice.

Rule of Life

Lastly, Comer shares how to develop a rule of life as we strive to learn how to practice the way of Christ. “A rule of life is a schedule and set of practices and relational rhythms that create space for us to be with Jesus, become like him, and do as he did, as we live in alignment with our deepest desires. It’s a way of intentionally organizing our lives around what matters most: God.”

For some, this may sound rigid, but it is an ancient practice with great modern benefits.

Years ago, I wrote out a rule of life. This book has me wanting to set aside time to revisit this and create a new rule of life, together with a few others in my community.

I strongly recommend this book! Grab a copy today. I know you will benefit from it.

Do you have a Rule of Life? If so, I’d love to hear about it. Comment below or post on the Missionary Life Facebook group.

4 Things to Remember When You Have Nothing Left To Offer

4 Things to Remember When You Have Nothing Left To Offer

Looking to our own resources and abilities can be discouraging. The task seems so big. We seem small. When I was young, I thought I could take on the world. As I’ve grown older, life’s experiences have taught me how fallible I am. Apart from 

In Pursuit of an Only What I See Him Doing Life

In Pursuit of an Only What I See Him Doing Life

“Jesus can do anything,” we say. Except for when He can’t. “What? Are there things Jesus can’t do? Isn’t He the God of the impossible,” you might be thinking. Yes, there are some things He cannot do. And there are many things we cannot do. 

How To Rewire Your Brain for Joy

How To Rewire Your Brain for Joy

When I woke up this morning, I wondered what I should write. My first thought was, “Joy is a really big deal.” I didn’t understand this for a long time, actually, joy always seemed right out of my reach. It seemed others were in touch with joy in ways I had yet to experience.

I had moments of happiness, but the deep joy I longed for, seemed impossible. I grew up in a family full of dysfunction. We may have looked joyful on the outside, but in reality, we were really low on joy.

As a believer, I knew joy was possible because the Bible talked about it. I had experienced being with joyful people, but I felt very void of that true abiding joy.

I had an inner desire for joy. I wanted to know, truly know, what the joy of the Lord was; and I wanted to be sustained by the strength of it. I wanted to know what it felt like in my body to be filled with joy. Experiencing what it was like to live from a place of joy rather than just seeking it on occasion – that was my desire!

Do you know the song- I got the joy, joy, joy, down in my heart, that some of us sang as children? Well, I can honestly say that I now have that joy and I am so grateful. This is why I now shout it from the rooftops and I write books about it for children.

I want children (and adults) to know from early on, that they can experience joy. It can give them the capacity for hard things.

Several years ago, I learned about the power of appreciation. When I began engaging this newfound skill, I discovered it was the key to unlocking joy.

The Power of Appreciation

Appreciation is packaged joy, a very powerful gift.

Joy means someone’s glad to be with me. Joy is a relational transaction. So, when I can remember times of appreciation, I can experience true joy. I use appreciation to build joyful capacity in my brain. Now as a coach, I use my joyful capacity to help others find joy and build it.

Appreciation is when I can recall times in my life when I felt joyful, peaceful, accepted, or connected. It’s the place where I train my brain to look for the good things in life. No matter how bleak our lives have been, we all have moments of appreciation.

At first, this exercise was hard. I didn’t think I had any moments to appreciate, but the more I practiced the easier it became.

An appreciation memory can be as simple as the flower growing wild in the garden, or a smile from the cashier at the grocery store. It could be that first sip of morning coffee. Or it might be a big life-changing event or experience such as a wedding, birth, or baptism.

It is not the size of the memory that rewires the brain. It is the intentional focus on how it feels in our body and emotions to be joyful, peaceful, connected, or accepted.

Appreciation is Relational

Appreciation activated my relational mind, and it helped me better connect with God and people. We can literally “come into His presence” when we are in a state of appreciation.

The Bible tells us to enter God’s gates with thanksgiving (Psalms 100:4). Neuroscience has now discovered that by keeping our minds in a state of appreciation, it helps us stay connected to those we love. This includes God.

Collecting Appreciation Memories

I love the way God created our brains! I now collect appreciation memories – some include memories with people or pets, some in nature, and others with God. Some memories bring high-energy joy and some bring low-energy peace. Learning to be intentional in this practice has helped me establish rhythms of joy and peace in my life.

Appreciation memories are meant to be shared. This is a great exercise for families, small groups, or friends to practice together. Sharing our memories turns our hearts and minds towards God and towards each other.

Your memories help my brain and my memories when shared help your brain. When we share our memories, it activates our relational brain and enables us to sense God’s presence and His thoughts. You could say that appreciation is a gateway into God‘s presence, His peace, and His love.

Switched on for Joy

Appreciation is a skill that can be learned and practiced. It is never too late. God created our brains to keep learning and growing. Joy is achievable!

My brand-new children’s book, Switched on for Joy, is my offering. Learning about appreciation and the invisible switch in my brain has helped me find relational JOY!

What is one positive memory you can thank God for today?

Share in the comments below or on the Missionary Life Facebook group!

*This was a guest post written by Heather Meades.

5 Important Reasons to Embrace the Waiting

5 Important Reasons to Embrace the Waiting

It’s been described in various ways. Sometimes it’s called a dark night of the soul. Sometimes it’s called burn-out or depression. Mid-life crisis is another name that is used. These are times when we seem caught in an unending period of transition. God is mostly